I asked for help frequently in my marriage and i never go it. My exh had the attitude that I’d always coped up until now so why do I need help all of a sudden.

Since my marriage ended, I’ve watched other people’s interactions within their marriages. It strikes me that there’s always one who’s the giver and one who’s the taker.

Deep down I have this romantic vision of what marriage is or should be, but really I don’t think it exists.

I know that I didn’t in mine. Sadly now that marriage is over.

But since my marriage ended I’ve looked at others marriage. What I see isn’t nice to be honest.

It’s seems to me that there’s always a giver and a taker. No inbetween.

I think most people when they ask for help within their marriage get the reply that I got. “You’ve not had help before….why do you want it now?”